We all have masks!

We don't just wear masks on special occasions like Halloween. We wear them almost every day. When you greet your boss at work, you have a smile firmly planted on your face (even though you just had an argument with your partner) but you chirp "good morning" smoothly and efficiently even though there's nothing "good" about your morning.

courtesy of my sexy girlfriend Desiree

There are so many situations to "mask" one's real intentions. Imagine how in business negotiations, sometimes you have one partner nodding politely and smiling at his partner while he plots how to back stab him or her.

Then there's the average girl who covers the shadows under her eyes with concealer so that you wouldn't see how tired she really is. Make up is like a weapon when she's wearing it and sometimes a weakness when she takes it off, worried to leave the house or be seen without her "mask"

But there are some things not worth trying to hide when you're in a relationship and it's your true face and real nature. If you try to be someone you're not, it catches up with you. If your partner is eventually going to find out what you're really like, may as well start by being yourself right?

For instance, when a guy puts his best foot forward when he's trying to impress a girl, he might try TOO HARD. Problem with that is over time, it becomes unnatural and difficult to maintain this front.

I actually know a couple of guys who do the opposite (using lesser cars on first dates and playing things down) so that a girl would hopefully like them just for them. Takes a certain amount of security to do that.

Considering we often wear "masks" at work (for me it might be smiling non stop for an ad till your jaw hurts but it's work so you grin and bear it ;) it's important to come home and be YOU or to have friends who you can be yourself around because they keep it real and tell you off if you step out of line.

Well, all this talk about masks makes me wanna wear my honey and oatmeal one! :) Those are the only masks I wear at home okay? *chuckle* and if you don't believe me, ask my pugs!! They really know ME ;)

Time waits for no man...or woman!

I was just looking at my clock and I decided to record this. And looking at the time now, I'm gonna have to hit the sack. I'm supposed to have "green eyes" for a coloured contact lens launch in the morning. I'm really hoping I'm going to be able to get them on without crying coz when I was at the shop the the other day trying it out for the first time, the shop had to get their tissue boxes out. I was hopeless.

I kept trying to keep my eye open but every time the lens was about to touch my eyeball, by reflex, I let go and closed my eye. I found the thought quite scary of putting something on your eyeball but I was determined to do it. How hard can it be I figured? Oh boyyyy...the lady had to do one eye for me first after my failed attempts so I would see how easy it was. So there I was with one brown eye and one green. I kept telling myself that "I can do this. I WILL get this done" I managed in the end. Hooray!!! It made my eyes look bigger. Really interesting. I know that wearing contact lenses is something that people round the world do every day but I'm a bit nervous knowing I have to wake up and put them in myself for this Freshkon launch *groan* Just not used to it la. Wish me luck!! At least I have the tissue box on stand by :)

So you're Asian?

I suffered a bit of racism when I was in boarding school in Australia. I was so unprepared for it. I couldn't work out what I had done or said to this one particular Aussie girl in my house who seemed to dislike me because I had black hair and black eyes and was labeled "Asian" or "not one of us".

I remember saying hello out of courtesy when I first laid eyes on her in the corridor (I was only 15 when I got sent to boarding school) and she turned away totally ignoring me and shut her bedroom door. Ouch!

Back home, I had never encountered anyone as rude as this due to my skin colour. It was quite a shock for me. I now know how it feels to be discriminated against and so senselessly. It feels really bad. It's a rejection of an entire human being based on the shade of your epidermis??? Or the slant of your eyeballs???

I didn't know how to react to this girl so I did nothing. I just studiously avoided her. Girls can be quite nasty to live with. I wasn't about to get into a fist fight. Just not my style and it didn't help when I heard she uses a shot gun on her farm to kill all the cockatoos on it!

It's an interesting thing that happened. One night over dinner, the girls in my class asked what I did for my English creative writing piece. I told them the whole story in a nutshell, including the twist at the end.

The cockatoo killer was on that table and she hadn't sat for her English paper yet. She copied my story (can u belive it?) and I discovered to my horror that we both got an "F" becoz the teacher said it was obviously not original. I was so upset this happened to me. I told the teacher she copied me and she did the same so it was my word against hers...sigh

Incredibly, a blond girl on the table that night (who was her friend) just got fed up of how badly she treated me and all the other Asians in the house and went to the teacher herself to set the matter straight. She said it was my script and her friend stole it.

I was so grateful to her coz my paper got re-marked. Boarding school was a real learning curve and I have no regrets. Over time, I found it in myself to forgive that Aussie girl. She didn't know any different. Her parents were racist and inevitably, it rubs off on the kids. Next time you think a negative, judgemental thought about someone, ask yourself, "Do you even know them?" Who gives us a right to judge anyone?

Did you know?

Guys, I've been so busy in post production hence the vlogs as opposed to blogs. Takes me a shorter amount of time and it's more interactive init? I'm researching scripts for my next lot of MIX fm health/empowerment messages and I came across these basic interesting tips I wanted to share. If you've got a min, that's how long my vlog is ;)

A few of us have just recorded some breast cancer messages for NTV 7 in conjunction with Harpers Bazaar magazine. Girls, please do check yourselves. It's scary to think that one in 19 of us women here in Malaysia develop breast cancer. It only takes a few moments to conduct a self examination but it can save your life!

Beyonce preview party

Just got home from a pretty good night out. I don't know why I'm so tired when I wasn't exactly dancing non-stop. To think I used to platform dance for Zouk Singapore when I was a teenager. I was so tireless, even showing up for work in comfortable sneakers coz there was no dress code (just in case you assumed I was in a cage or something...well, no!) I was more of a funky dancer rather than a sexy one. I was the tomboy with the footwork. I would do the running man, the shuffle, you name it. I could dance for hours hardly breaking a sweat. I promise myself I'm gonna get back on to the tennis court and unfold my yoga mat which is collecting cobwebs VERY SOON ;) Well, before I hit the sack, here's how tonight went (in my humble opinion). I've made a video (see above) coz I'm so tired I can barely type.

Gosh, I feel so unfit. Been too busy on Project Alpha. I'm still on it. Sometimes, we edit till dawn (this week, the featured blogger is beautifulnara. The more you watch him, you realise how naturally funny he is. I really enjoyed working on his story :) ok, nightey all zzz

What does Kyanite mean?

A couple of years ago, I sat down with my business partner trying to come up with a name for our company. I came across the name "Kyanite" and I liked the sound of it coz it was so unusual but I didn't know what it meant. Someone the other day just asked me about it so in case ur wondering, I've explained this in my short vlog :)

Playboy fragrance is coming to town!

Have you noticed how the word "Playboy" makes a man's imagination just run wild? They start thinking about bunnies, women and fancy cars. Well guess what? That's EXACTLY what you can expect at the Playboy roadshow at Mid Valley. There's even a lamborghini you might have a chance to take pictures in with some playboy bunnies! ;)

I will be hosting this roadshow on Saturday, Oct 10th from 4pm to 6pm at Mid Valley (minus the bunny ears but I'll find something sexy in my closet, I promise hehe). 

 

Girls, I recommend you come in your own bunny outfit coz you could win a Prada or Burberry bag worth RM5k!

Playboy is launching 4 different kinds of fragrance. They're all pretty sexy. Take your pick...

There's Playboy Las Vegas. This is for a man who is not afraid to take a gamble. Are you a risk taker? 

Then there's Playboy Malibu for the laid back guy who can picture himself reclining on a deck chair with some gorgeous babe in a bikini right next to him (everyone can dream right? *wink*)

Then there's Playboy Miami for the real pleasure seeker...

Lastly, and very glamorously, there's Playboy Hollywood for the smooth, seductive charmer. I've picked a shot of Jessica Alba coz sooo many men round the world say she's hot!

Look even my pug Pickle is curious about these fragrances. Can't get enough of them! lol ;) For more info on the Playboy fragrance launch, just click here. If not, hope to see you on Saturday, 4 to 6pm at Mid Valley! 

My dogs KNOW what I'm saying!

They say that dogs can decipher about 300 words. That's quite a lot when you think about it. My sister who lives in the States can't even say the word dog park over the phone coz they'll get too excited so she says "I'll be taking them to the p-a-r-k" There's a few things I can't say either. Even fast sleep, I've seen them wake up when they hear the "magic words" I'm not kidding! Watch this home video and you'll see what I mean :)